When to send the RSVP and the famous wedding invitations?

A nameless puzzle for every couple who wishes to get married. But when should I send my invitations? What is the difference between a "Save the Date" and a formal invitation? Read the following, it will certainly give you a clue.

Save the Date vs invitation : what is the real difference (and why you need both)?

Should you send the details of the place with the "Save the Date" ? The "Save the Date" is the official invitation ? The confusion is total ! The "Save the Date" and the invitation (the invitation) both have a critical role in the organization of your wedding, but they are not interchangeable. Here is a clear guide to understand the function and the timing of each.

Save the Date : the early warning and the essential

This is a pre-notice to reserve the date and not the official invitation. Its purpose is to ensure that your guests priority can plan their presence (holidays, flights, hotels) before the date is taken. This is especially important when your wedding is a destination.

Sent very early (ideally 6 to 12 months in advance).

Should be minimalist and precise

  • Your name.
  • The exact date of the marriage.
  • The city or region (if needed for travel).
  • The statement clear : "formal Invitation to follow" or something similar.
    The little plus : This is the opportunity to set the tone of your wedding with a fun design, that looks like you and creative (a photo of the couple, a postcard, etc).

The invitation– the official invitation and the crucial details

This is the official invitation, which confirms all the details of the day. This is the document that your guests will keep. It marks the beginning of the final statement.

To be sent later (ideally 4 to 6 months in advance).

Must be detailed and comprehensive.

  • Your name (often formalized).
  • The exact date and time.
  • The exact address (ceremony and reception).
  • The dress code.
  • The information on gifts (wedding list or urn, if desired).
  • The card RSVP and its deadline.
    The little plus : The is often composed of several cards (invitation main card management/hosting, the card RSVP).

Calendar Perfect for a Wedding Local/Classic

This scenario is ideal if most of your guests resident in the same area and do not require flights or hotel reservations complex.

Delay before the wedding Action Objective
12 to 8 months Sending " Save the Date " Allow all block the date (especially if there is a holiday or a long weekend).
6 to 4 months Send the invitations Provide all the details (address, opening hours, dress codes). Sooner, if the wedding is in the high season (summer).
8-to-6 weeks Deadline RSVP Confirm the final numbers to the caterer and the table plan.
4 to 2 weeks Last reminders Contact friendly to guests who have not responded.
1 to 3 months after Send Thank you Cards Gesture of courtesy (wait if you include pictures of marriage).

Calendar perfect for a destination wedding

This scenario applies if you are planning your wedding abroad, or if an important part of your invited guests must travel far or take time off.

Delay before the wedding Action Objective
18 to 12 months Sending " Save the Date " Crucial to allow time to arrange (flights, hotels, passports).
10 to 6 months Send the invitations Leave plenty of time for the finalisation of arrangements for travel and accommodation.
10 at 8 weeks Deadline RSVP The caterer and the hotel are in need of this figure earlier.
4 to 2 weeks Last reminders Contact friendly to guests who have not responded.
2 to 6 months after Send Thank you Cards You can take more time, especially if you wait for the photos of your honeymoon trip.

The expert advice for the perfect Timing

The secret is to always take into account the time of your provider, the more critical.

If your caterer requires a final number of guests 60 days before the wedding, you have to set the deadline for your RSVP to 75 days (approximately 10 weeks) to give you two weeks of room for raises. Then, you step back in time to determine the date of dispatch of invitations !

Why both are necessary (" Save the Date " & official invitation)

The "Save the Date" is a gesture of courtesy to guests who need to travel, while the Share is a necessity logistics for the caterer and the floor plan. Using the two allows you to have the best of both worlds : guests can all be arranged in advance and a caterer who has the numbers to time.

Now that you know the difference, you can start creating ! Which item of stationery are you going to draw first ?

Hoping that this blog has a little bit unraveled !

Team Myriads xx

About the Author

Miryam Côté

Founder and Co-Owner of myriades & co, she leverages her triple expertise in event design, strategic planning, and high-end floral artistry. With experience organizing and creating over 200 weddings, she is personally committed to ensuring that every event exceeds expectations, delivering an experience that is both memorable and flawlessly executed.

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